Relationship VS Enjoyable Sex

Insecure people with their relationship less enjoyable sex

One of the findings may be revealing for those who have sexual problems with their partner. A study of the Basque Country University indicates that people enjoy less unsafe sex with their spouse, as well as being much more complicated to maintain a relationship. A priori, nothing new, but things change when we checked in the subgroups that divided the profiles insecure, anxious-ambivalent and avoidant. Identifying them is as easy as going out or look at ourselves in the mirror.

The relationship between an avoidant and anxious one is doomed to failure

"Anxious people are reacting to the other and caring clinging compulsively, and avoid reacting to avoid the link. His philosophy is 'better not have, to have and lose'. Moreover, in the field of privacy are people with more difficulty, "says Gomez Zapiain, leader of the research group. And protecting people "tend to show greater care and controladoramente conflict with the desire."

Thus, insecure people with your partner find it more difficult to have fun in bed. But it gets more complicated day by day, when the combination of an avoidant and anxious person can be "explosive", according to Gomez Zipain literal. "This combination is that most likely could end in a query or even the break-up." The reason is obvious, since one show a tendency to give too much and the other to shun approaches.

Therefore, it is important that "each member must have the ability to put in place support to meet the couple when it is wrong and needs emotional support. At the same time, they must be able to put in what we call 'dependent position, "ie, recognize the need for support and to express it in a moment of anguish." This attitude of balance is typical of a healthy person from a psychological point of view, which corresponds, according to this study, the profiles of people safe.

The cited work called sexual experience, attachment styles and types of care in relationships and published in Annals of Psychology, was based on a sample of 211 couples from the Basque Country. A wide age range, between 20 and 65, and relationships mean duration of 13.5 years. "For us it was important that people participate in a bonding relationship with a modicum of stability in time," explains Gomez Zipain. The vast majority of heterosexual respondents said, with a rate of 5.6% of both homosexual and bisexual. As to the objective, citing the "get empirical evidence" that the body harmony sex, attachment and care "contributes to the quality of relationships."